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Addiction and Recovery – Preventing Relapse After Surgery

You are ultimately responsible for your own addiction recovery.  When you know that you have to have surgery, it is important to keep everyone treating you informed about your recovery and addiction history, including the names of the drugs, the amounts, the lengths of time that you took them, and your last use.  You are responsible for asking a lot of questions of the treatment team.  Questions like the following are appropriate:  “How long will surgery take?”  “What is the procedure and what will it entail?”  What kinds of anesthesia will be administered?”  “How long will I need pain medications after surgery?”  “What kinds of pain medications do you usually prescribe for post-op?”  “What kinds of different choices for pain medications are available to recovering addicts who are concerned about having their addiction triggered?”  “What doctors will I be working with for post-op procedures and checkups?”  Make sure that all the medical professionals that you are working with understand that you are an alcoholic/addict in recovery.

Maintain complete honesty all the way through the process.  If you are scared, say it.  If you are given a medication that has a mood/mind altering effect, or has triggered some euphoric recall or craving, tell them.  Your feedback on how you are reacting each step of the way, can help inform your treatment in the most beneficial ways and additionally be most protective of your continuing recovery.

It is also crucial to be completely honest and communicative to those in your support network. When planning surgery, consult with your AA/NA friends of buddies who have already experienced what you are going through.  Talk to the old guys/gals in the group, even if you don’t normally hang out with them.  Ask them whether they have been through it or been witness to others going through it.  Ask for any recommendations that they may have.

Recovery wisdom encourages any recovering persons going through surgery to have as many “program” folks around him/her as possible for support.  This means having people in recovery doing a kind of “babysitting” with you, not around the clock, but “checking in and checking on”.  Be honest with them about what you are thinking, feeling, and doing.  When you feel lousy, you probably won’t want a lot of company.  Do it anyway.  This is when you need it most.

After you go home, you may still be on pain medications.  It is crucial that you give your pain medications to someone else to dispense to you.  This may be a spouse, a sponsor, a nursing service, but someone other than you should be in charge of the medications.  You may think that you are not vulnerable for relapse, since you feel confident.  Not wanting to relapse is insufficient to prevent relapse.  Giving control of the pain medications to someone else may bee feel completely unjustified and it may seem like an unnecessary step, especially in light of surrendering control to the medical professionals with surgery. 

Making it through surgery and post-op pain management is a major challenge to your continued recovery.  It takes a lot of awareness and utilization of recovery skills that yoiu may just be beginning to develop.  To maintain recovery, give the meds to someone who will not give in to your anger and frustration.  They should make sure that they know exactly what the prescription directions say and whether there is any leeway in dosing.  Addicts often hear something other than what the doctor or pharmacist says about doses.  Or the fear of the pain may drive dishonest behavior.

More than the physical response to surgery drives the perception of pain.  It is very easy to get into a circular pattern when the pain creates anxiety or fear, which leads to more pain and tension and the need for more medication.  The body craving medication can create emotional or psychological symptoms as well as an increased perception of pain, which drives the need for more pain medications. 

Remember too, that mind/mood altering medications drug your thinking and feeling as well as your physical body.  An example would be distorted beliefs about the motives of others.  If you think that you are in pain because the treatment team is ignoring your needs, you will probably feel angry and frustrated.  Your communication of that anger and frustration may be acted out if you are not proficient at appropriate expression and management of emotions.  You might argue with the spouse who is administering your pain medications.  If you distrust the motives or knowledge of the doctor or nursing staff, you may feel justified in manipulating them for more (or different) drugs. 

The more the psychological or emotional turmoil associated with the pain, the more the tendency to act it out, producing more turmoil, which can be experienced as more pain, and increased need for drugs. This turns into a self-reinforcing circular pattern.

This sounds complicated.  In fact, when you stay honest and talk about your experiences, physical and emotional, from the beginning, you are better able to identify the thoughts you are having about pain, the emotions attached to it, and to move from acting out feelings, to working through them, asking for help, and practicing effective relapse prevention.  This whole description applied to the short term recovery period after surgery.  For chronic pain issues or long term recovery necessitating mind altering drugs over an extended period of time, it is even more complicated.

If you or someone you love anticipates surgery and is fearful of the effect that it may have on his/her/your recovery, there are other information resources available to help navigate those dangerous waters. You are welcome to use the resources that you may find on my website at * http://www.peggyferguson.com. There are a number of recovery articles and a “Recommended Readings” page. On the “Links” page, there are other websites listed that could also be helpful to you.

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Addiction and Recovery – Maintaining Your Recovery Motivation – Or You Will Relapse?

People often find their way to recovery in the midst of a crisis. Someone standing at the crossroads of recovery, may have been arrested for DUI, may have been fired, or may have received a scary report from the doctor. He may have heard the bottom line demand from his spouse– “Get help or we are getting a divorce.” Or, the alcoholic/addict may in fact, have a moment of clarity and really be able to see that he does have a problem and that help and abstinence are called for. The alcoholic/addict feels afraid. He feels ashamed.  He feels angry at others or at himself for being in this position in the first place.   

Fear, coercion or crisis helps him find his way into recovery. Fear is a fairly good short term motivator, but not so good in the long run. Once the fear subsides and the crisis is over, it is very easy to lose your motivation and momentum. At the point where the cycle of addiction is interrupted by failing to take the next drink, dose, or joint, there is a lot of tension, anxiety, and mindfulness of where you are in the process. Detox or withdrawal may occur, with physical and/or emotional symptoms being very consciously experienced.

When you get to feeling better physically and emotionally after detoxing, it is easy to lose your momentum. Your focus on recovery can dissolve. Some of the problems that once motivated your recovery might be resolved now. Because you have quit drinking or using, your spouse and kids are once again speaking to you and are in the process of forgiving you. You may have even won back some trust. Everything seems to be going well.  

Under these circumstances it is quite easy for you to take your eyes off the target and lose your focus on recovery. Erroneously, you may believe that your abstinence is not so fragile now.  Feeling better, you may think you have it “whipped”. 

Without actively focusing on your continuing abstinence and recovery, your behavior can begin to drift away from the newly instituted behavioral changes that you have made. You run the risk of returning to old thinking, old feelings, and then ultimately old behavior.  The reason why this would happen is that you are not consciously taking steps to continue on a path of recovery. This path involves many changes in your behavior and in your life style. Without making conscious choices in regard to how each decision affects your new recovery life or your old addiction life, you are unconsciously choosing your old life. Choosing recovery is not like jump starting your damaged car battery where once you get it started, it recharges itself as run it. You have to continuously work a program of recovery. Without doing so, your efforts will be short-lived. 

You will quit going to counseling. You will quit going to meetings. You will have stopped calling your recovery support people. Your defenses will go back up and you may take exception to the feedback of significant others who tell you that you are acting like you used to before recovery.

 

You won’t be able to see that you are on the road to relapse. You won’t be able to understand why they are concerned. You won’t be able to identify the behavioral changes that scare them because you will be back in denial. Being around old drinking/using environments and friends don’t scare you. You can’t understand why it would scare your significant others. After all, you told them that you are not going to relapse. You have learned your lesson. What more do they want? 

After awhile, you will begin to think that you have your drinking or using under control now.  When you think of addiction as a thing of the past, that you now have it under control, you will begin to entertain the notion that you can now drink or use without negative consequences. If any of this sounds like your recent experience, you are in big trouble. You are in the relapse process and unless you do something now, you will relapse–and soon.

Addiction recovery is a lifelong process, just as recovery from all chronic diseases are. To empower yourself and your addicted loved one, gain as many tools and resources as you can. My website has a number of individual and family dynamics of addiction and recovery. There are Recommended Readings, an “Ask Peggy” column, a Links page with additional resources, and a newsletter that will alert you to new educational/informational opportunity releases. To answer a survey about what you would like to know more about, or to purchase my ebook, “Understanding Cross Addiction to Prevent Relapse” go to http://www.peggyferguson.com/ServicesProvided.en.html

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